Internet Stalkers, And Freaks from San Jose, Finally I Get Stalked!!!! Sam I Am!!!

Finally I am being stalked!!! Yeah for me, after all these years, finally, someone...someone has the time, the sad little life to stalk me. Sadly it isn't a blonde with a nice body, nor is it a cute redhead no, no its a guy named Sam Pincus of San Jose.....A big round of applause to Sam! Yeah Sam!!!! See Sam is upset because a girl doesn't like him...awwwwww. But Sam being the fertile, virile man that he is starts calling her, and professes his undying love to her..awwwww. But no avail, our hero Sam, is left in the cold. Does he drink? No. Does he write crappy love poems? No. Does he threaten to call her husband? Does start calling at weird hours of the day? Does he become hostile online, starts calling her names? Yes, yes and yes. So I your lowly and humble hero, decides enough is enough, my friend is in pain, she's about to cry, so I tell her to call Sam on three way (gotta love technology) and I begin to tell said Sam to back the f' off. A few more things said, I must admit at 2am last night I was buzzed been out with the guys. His best come back? Making fun fun of my NY accent? Ummm wow. He says I sound like a girl? Ladies and Gentleman, Sam Pincus of San jose, here all week, no cover charge. You would think this would be over....not for our friend Sam, no no, Sam proceeds to get this, get a myspace account and then finds me here!!! I know what you're thinking, but I won't give it up on the first email treat. Yes, our man Sam of San Jose, tracks me down and sends a message, here, on myspace.....Apparently he has nothing better to do in life.....So what is the end result? What will our hero Sam and his nemisis, moi do? Well from this point every message, email he sends me I will put it up on my blog here and on blogspot and msnspaces. As to show the world that Sam Pincus is a manly man, a man who knows how to stalk, a man who with 5 minutes and a fast modem, he too can stalk you. Ladies beware he's a charmer. By the way Sam I am, I wonder if Cathy, asuming Cathy is a real person and not the name of your blowup doll, knows what kind of person you are...hmmmm....... oh and here is what Sam I am wrote to me Tom if you catch this I'm doing a public service announcement:
From: SamDate: Apr 12, 2006 2:22 AM
Silly boy...come on little man...I can see why you write as opposed to speak. You sound like a little girl. Anyhow, should you ever feel passionate enough to share some words with me face to face, we can arrange that. Otherwise, don't waste my time being brave over the phone.
His profile is at http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=58040619 but don't expect alot he just opened his account today...give him sometime before to long he'll have the number stalking song of all time as his music video, "Every breath you take" and yes its about stalking and not about love....jeeze...
So there has to a moral right? I mean I just wouldn't write all that without having a point? A witty, sarcastic yet in depth comment about how this little situation is a microcosm of a bigger larger issue....ok you got me...there is.
With the world getting smaller through technological advances, one of the things to go out the window is privacy. While real life stalkers that follow you and track you down at home are more dangerous than online stalkers, the added spped and vastness of cyberspace has made you easily available for stalking. The internet is freedom, freedom for you, me and the pedophiles and Sam Pincus' of the world. It starts out innocently enough, you're in chatroom, a blog space something. You exchange emails, you im each other you may even take the next step call...but when things go wrong, your life becomes an episode of 90210. The hate mail starts coming, then comes photos and nastiness. Next thing you know you dread opening the email. Luckily you can block said psycho, but if its that easy to track someone down on myspace, or a quick google, then isn't it possible no matter how remote for this person to track you down at home? Answer yes.
Recently there have been reports about online predators and pedophiles that are online. They appear in chatrooms, mesage boards, your kid's friend list on myspace. They seem and even look like your neighbor, your kid's teacher nd sadly...they are. The are parasites and feed off the vulnerablity of kids, like online stalkers the avaialbility of their target is as vast as cyberspace itself. The rest of society is trying to keep up with the pace of technology, new laws have been signed to punish online stalkers, sting operations have netted hundreds of online pedophiles, but it barely makes a dent in the armor. There is no real way to protect yourself from predators and freaks like the guy from San Jose, all you can do is try and stay safer, or you can take the high road and try to ignore them...as for myself, Sam Pincus of San Jose....you started something with me that you shouldn't have.....before long you're gonna be as famous as Brian Peppers, go google that......

Girl Groups,Models Sex and Political Warfare The Art of the Lapdance

So I'm watching MTV, it happens every once in a while they still play videos, I kinda wanna know what kids are listening to these days, maybe learn a new slang word, cause I'm still using fresh and funky, usually in that comination as in I'm in a funky fresh mood today, which sounds weird in 2006 but in 1990 I was coolness. So while watching said channel, I saw a girl group, not just any girl group, but the Pussycat Dolls. All I can say is meow. So my whole thing is this, wow, man are they hot. OK now newsflash there, and I haven't been under a rock, I know what the Pussycat Dolls are burlesque at its best, talk about retro. Anyways.....I started thinking about other girl groups and aside from the Motown days of the Supremes and such, we need to fast forward to the Spice Girls. Remember them? They all had personalities, we all knew their names, kinda. Destiny's Child, the ever revolving door of members, I was taking bets for how long it would be before Beyonce jumped ship. But the Pussycat Dolls are a great insight into the evolving societal attitudes into female empowerment. Don't cha think? OK bad pun. Moving on....
The Dolls are beautiful, sexy, talented....not Sarah McLachlan, singer songwriter talent, but for pop music, pretty damn good, better than the pop produced by The Simpson Clan. But the ever changing world of feminism, has turned on its dime. Somewhere between Jewel and The Dolls, sexuality equals feminism. OK, I can see the arguement here, a woman taking control of her sexuality is being independent, bucking society's prudish views of chastity. But isn't playing up the sexuality just another form of putting the woman down? I mean, as long as men or society still view as sexual objects and still objectify the sexuality of a woman as something as we can take advantage of, then isn't the end result of all this just influencing young girls who will also see this as empowerment and then you know, start bar dancing and such? I don't know maybe this whole situationis more complex and involves more than just girl groups and MTV, but isn't it safe to assume that young impressionable minds are influnced by the media just as much as their enivronment at home and school. I can understand if this were the 50's and tv was a new medium, but in this day and age of technological wonder, the tv, internet and everything else plays a bigger role than 50 years ago, shouldn't we at least not discount the fact that this happens? In any case, this isn't about how bad the Pussycat Dolls are to society which they aren't and personally I think we need more Dolls, but the the bigger issue is responsibility on all levels, from the media, to parents to schools. We live in a world now where we avoid debate, wanna teach evolution ok, teach intelligent design at least get the kids minds working. Are we developing a culture of conformity where we avoid debate and promote political correctness at any cost? While political correctness was a good thing in the 90's it took a decade for me to realize that political correctness is condesending. At least when we were openly hostile to one another we debated issues, today we hide behind smiles and hypocrisy, for fear of being labeled racist, agist, anti-semite, zenophobe and et al. In the end we are judged based on not what we say but what we think and feel. HIstory will not remember the immigration bills or the abortion bans, history will remember the arguements, they will quote nameless faceless people but the sentiment is there. Not for many people remember what Nathan Hale looked like or even who he is, but everyone remembers, "I regret that I have but one life to give to my country." Nice sentiment no?
This arguement will be waged, I hope for years to come, but sadly we live in a model-esque world. And by that I mean superficial, artificial and unremakrable world. We are we actually celebrating models? Caus ethey have a talent? Did they cure a disease? Are they creating music? books? poetry? Or are we celebrating them for looking nice, looking nice in lingerie, next to a car? I mean really what are we saying? Here's a sadder note, society is so dumb right now, we buy into it, yeah thats right, drink this beer, drive this car, use this body spray and chicks will dig you. Ladies you have no to blame but yourselves, explain to me why, when women have a 5 point majority in the US women still don't control the political agenda? Could it be, and I'm just throwing this out there, but could it be that women care more about landing Mr. Right or the right fall makeup for you than say abortion rights, healthcare? Just me but if women have a 5 percent majority over men and can swing elections, shouldn't we have had a female president? So with this "model" mentality of superficality, we shouldn't be surprised that with each passing generation its getting shallow No longer are we producing Mozarts or Eiensteins or Shakespeares, instead we have Paris Hilton and Jessica Simpson and Aston Kucher, there is no justice in the world. Its sad when Jessica Simpson is more well known than the people who broke the human genome, its sad when we basically gave up the idea of not only setting the bar high and then setting it higher, instead we give points to those who just try and never succeed. Not everyone should play in the game coach, no what I'm saying?
So this all started with Pussycat Dolls and my continuing war with celebrities with no real talent and it ends with this....if we don't care about what entertains us, then in the end we don't care where society evolves too. Everyone sees the conservative zealots yet no one says anything about theliberal zealots who turn everything into a crime. I swear if another tree-huggin' granola eating birkenstock freak with a soul patch tell me I'm being insensitive to the plight of the indeginous people of America I'm gonna puke up my Starbucks latte. And if another flag waving Bible thumping I'm an American redneck tells me how sex on tv is bad for America I'm gonna throw the Constitution with a highlight of the First Amendment at his head. Wanna be a real American? Why not stick up for everyone's right to speak, even to people whose words make you mad and whose ideas contradict your own, stand up for their right as well. Thats what freedom is all about, you would argue for the right for everyone not just for people who agree with you. Then we start a real debate about issues. Then we can start discussing war, economics, healthcare and the Pussycat Dolls. You can't blame everyone and leave yourself out, its not their fault why Bush is in office again, its not Bush's fault for taking America to war after 9/11 its our fault for not saying.."Wait, is this even right?" Its our fault for speaking a good game but then not show up on election day. The lapdance isn't the problem, the problem is that in a country as wealthy and advanced as ours, why do people still have to do lapdances to make a good life.

Girls Gone Wild? Serial Date Rapists? The Next Sex Generation

Admit it, its 3am you can't sleep. You filp through the channels, (cause theres 300 channels and somewhere The Karate Kid is playing) and you see it, a pretty young thing, who lifts her top and bam! GIRLS GONE WILD!!!!! Ladies, you seen them at the bar or the clubs, open shirt wearing, wife beater shirt guy with a Corona in his hand. He's getting you liquored up on Cosmos or apple martinis then you wake up the next morning searching for your thong. I'm 29, and in some ways one side of me feels jipped. When I was in college, the girls were into the whole Lilith Fair, Sarah McLachaln thing and date rape was the number one issue on campuses nationwide. Guys were so neutered that wearing a goatee and stuming along to old Bob Dylan songs was cool. Hell, you wouldn't get a date unless you read Slyvia plAth poems and bared your soul in a poem, in a coffee cafe with an open mic. Taking women's issues classes was the thing to do and everyone wore birkenstocks. My how things have changed.

Maybe I'm getting old and not hip anymore or maybe, just maybe, we're on downward spiral towards a hedonistic hell. Lets be Frank for a moment or a Judy whatever the case may be, to all the liberal ideolouges out there, if you think we're being overrun by moralistic conservatives, check yourself first. Today's media is far more liberal than 15 years ago, even ten years ago. Aside for out and out fellatio, monkey sex, full frontal nudity, what more can you ask for? When Ellen came out the closet it was the biggest thing to happen and after which she was cancelled, fastforward to now she has successful daytime talk show. Will and Grace? Never could have happened in 1994. So lets not try and say we're being censored cause to be honest we're not, Howard Stern and Clear Channel? Try Stearn going for the big bucks on satellite. Janet Jackson on the Super Bowl, was it really necessary? For all the people who feel oppressed or censored, try going to China first then get back to me.

I'm not bashing liberals, considering I am one, its your turn conservative America. Its the moralizing, the better than thou finger pointing. Its the hypocrisy. You curse in life, you have sex, hell you even get naked so don't start moralizing on the virtues of chasity, please if that were the case, you'd never procreate. I digress. The conservatives have their own holier than thou philosphy which is at times confusing, I mean I understand it I just don't see the logic, which is why most of their ideas are all faith based initiatives. Yet, I wonder where are they when things like rape and genocide in Africa and the Mid-East are in the news? Perhaps in deep spiritual prayer. I can get down with some more morality, a little family values, the idea that showing your breasts for cheap 10 cent beads isn't always a good idea.

So is it liberal hedonism or conservative backlash? Do we blame the media? Do we blame parents who in their youth (ie: the 80's think Less Than Zero or Robert Downey Jr. period) went crazy on coke and heroin 8-balls while making money in the market? Do we blame MTV who seem to stop playing videos and started showing teen like reality shows which do nothing but warp a young mind, more on this on a later date. Do we perhaps blame porn? Here's a real noevl idea, we blame everyone and ourselves. Yep, everyone, me too. I always think its odd how we expect other people to do the dirty work and not ourselves. How we all think cops are corrupt and racist but always the first people we call after we get mugged. The fact that we complain about taxes yet enjoy free public eduation and road improvement. We shake our fingers at musical lyrics that degrade women, yet have no problem dancing to it or downloading it illegally, or refer to another girl as a bitch. I would like to say that all of this is ironic but its not, its hypocrisy, but not ironic, though thanks to Alanis, no one quite understand irony anmore, which in of itself is ironic? No? Ah well, you dribble and you shoot.

The moment of clarity for happened one spring day a couple years ago while I was strolling in Central Park, I saw a mother with her young daughter say 11? Maybe 12 or 13. No matter though, cause mom had no problem with what said child was wearing. No she wasn't in a skimpy see through thing, or an ultra too short skirt just jeans and a t-shirt. Doesn't sound bad? Course not well, unless of course you read what the t-shirt said. "I'm A Porn Star". In bright orange, this child was declaring that she herself was wearing a "I'm A Porn Star" t-shirt. Nice real nice. Whats next? "I Give head like a pornstar" t-shirt, sadly I have seen this t-shirt as well. Though I think she was 16, still scary. Now, I like porn as much as the next guy, but seriously 12? The real issue isn't the shirt or the fact that the mom was ok with it, nor is the real problem the infomercial itself. Its not the internet's fault and its not cable tv though I would like to blame Sex and the City for something. I can blame it on two things, one MTV thats right them and of course I blame Freud.

First lets tackle MTV. Aside from destroying the careers of the not for ready music video careers of Christopher Cross and Air Supply, but somehow made Flock of Seagulls and The Bugles really big stars proved to everyone once and for all, image really is everything. Who needs talent when looking cute and sexy can make you an insta-celeb? WHole careers were made this way....Wham! anyone? But its more than just that, its the advent of reality tv, The Real World. Aside from the first season, which if you watch today seems tame by coparison to today's hottub orgies. But once that first season cme out and turned normal everyday people into "famous" folk, the bar has been set and since then it was about mugging for more camera time. So where does this cause give us the effect of Girls Gone Wild? Wait! there's more. I can remember being a young 7th grader and watching MTV's Spring break, with Paulie Shore, sad I know but true. There they were, blonde, bikinis and beach, the Holy Trinity for a young lad. If you were say born in 1985, by the time you were in high school the year would have been, 1999. Talk about being impressionable. Britney Spears, Sex and the City MTV's Real World and my personal favorite, the Girls Gone Wild infomercials. Fast forward to her freshman year of college, already in the her mind are the images and influences of a faster, hedonistic society. The Me First attitude, the party, party generation who seem to forget that AIDS is still around. Sure they won't smoke cause its bad, but who needs a condom? Now before you start thinking that I'm some old fuddy duddy, I'm not, I just wonder if I have kids what's next? Now if you're a guy born about the same time, the amount of rap videos that literally depict women as sexual objects and good for you know, the matress mambo, watch and see that hey, I can do that too, next thing you know its about a sense of entitlement. Remember back in '94 they had this whole lame red light, green light thing on college campuses? Where were the bar dancing then? The whole stripper pole revolution? Seriously the kids born in 1974-1978 seriously got jipped bad, too young for the freeqwheeling 80's and the decadent 2000's. Now other guys my age are khaki wearing, Starbucks drinking shells of men who still think Sarah McLachlan kicks ass. Damn you MTV!!!! Damn you Paulie Shore!!!! Damn you Daytona Beach!!!!

Freud....he's a pretty smart guy. Had some ideas regarding psychological stuff, you know everything has some weird sexual reasoning behind it. Too much love or hate a cigar not a cigar, unless you're Pres. Bill, ( what a guy!!!! 4 more years of Bill!!!!) So why Freud and not say Madonna? WHy Freud and not Hooters? Freud killed God...... well not kill maybe perhaps you know, made God less important than say you're fixation on lollipops. When religion became say....less important to our lives it did a lot more than let us sleep in on the weekends. Take away the angels, the saints, the whole virgin birth thing and what you have is a bunch of do's and don't, a sense or morality. Yes some of them were dated and really really dumb but for the most part its got a good moral no? Ok, so maybe you were good cause who wants to burn in a lake of fire for eternity? Sure you'll be good cause who wants to Satan's bride? Basically we stayed good and moral or a bit more modesty for fear of eternal damnation. Take out damnation you take away guilt, you take away a guilty conscience all you have left is a logic that is based on what makes "you" feel good. Better analogy, ok. Why don't people commit murder? Eternal damnation? or being in jail for 25 to life spending your days and night fighting for your ass virginity? A corpreal punishment verses a possible metaphysical punishment? So if there is no more "damnation" or "punishment" then whats the harm? The only harm is to oursleves only. Its not like anyone would find out that I showed my breasts on a dvd distributed worldwide and downloaded online by millions? What are the odds anyone will recognize me? And even if they do, they have to admit to buying it, so whats more embrassing me for showing tits or you for buying it? Weird logical which somehow makes sense enough to get Joe Francis, the Girls Gone Wild guy, an island and a private jet. Sad I know and the dude who cracked the human genome is nameless, dateless and he still wears glasses. I know, our soldiers are protecting us and our rights and getting blown up, so idiots can marry a millionaire, be a survivor, an apprentice, marry someone you just met or just be an idiot. Whatever happened to the counterculture? Would these kids care more if there was a draft? an economic depression? a world war? You would think post9/11 would give us some insight, it did lasted less than a year and we're back to beads and bikinis.

In the end its not where we are its more about where we are heading. The conservative censorship is a pipedream, there is no real cracking down on your rights and such when it comes to the media. The media just isn't doing their job, the real voices of the people aren't heard cause there isn't enough of them, where is Abby Hoffman when you need him?The reality is, that censorship and such will lose to the almighty dollar and as long as sexy sells, they'll keep pushing the envelope. Even Bible Belt Reupblicans see the reality of the situation, which is ..."Ahhhhhh fuck it!" They'll protest, maybe make cnn.com one day, hey they might even try and pass a law or something which will mostlikely get overturned when a Denocrat becomes President. Sooner or later we're all gonna have to stop and think, how far is too far. Sooner or later someone has to ask that question and risk being called an asshole. At least the conversation has begun...and that is probably the more important issue.